The holiday we all hate to hate will soon be upon us. Mother’s Day is an emotional minefield for those of us who don’t have kids, and while I can’t do anything to make it a happy day, after 11 years of being married without kids on Mother’s Day, I’ve learned some ways to make it suck less.
1. Go to work. This has been my strategy for the last few years. My job requires occasional weekends, and you know who really does not want to work on Mother’s Day? Mothers. When they’re scheduled to work on the 2nd weekend in May, the working mothers in my department jump at the chance to trade weekends with me! They get to spend the day with the fam and I get to focus on something other than “woe is me.”
2. “But what about Mass?” The Catholic readers cry. Darlin’, I hear ya. Mother’s Day Mass and First Communion Masses are the most mascara-ruining Masses of the year for me. (Luckily, they’re both in spring and I can tell people it’s just my allergies, but I digress.) Anyway, here are some things that have worked for me:
- Go to a really early Mass. You know who really does not want to get up for a 7 AM Mass on Mother’s Day? Mothers.
- Go to a really late Mass. You know who really does not want to drag everybody back out of the house after dinner on Mother’s Day? Mothers. This one goes double if you…
- Go to Mass at the Newman Center. I’ve blogged before about how wonderful Newman Centers can be even if you’re not a college student. No kids? No problem. Single? No problem. You’re the norm at the Newman Center, not the exception.
- Go to Mass at a convent or monastery. Reverent, quiet, and if they mention Mother’s Day at all, it’s because they’re praying for their own mothers.
3. Spend time with the Blessed Mother. Mary had only one child at a time when large families were the rule. She became pregnant with Jesus before she was married at a time when pregnancy out of wedlock was an extreme disgrace. She may not have carried your exact cross, but she certainly knows what it’s like to be left out and the subject of gossip.
You’ll notice I did not mention spending time with your mother. I’m sure this will be great for some of you, but it won’t work for everybody. Maybe, like me, your mother lives far away and spending time with her isn’t feasible, or maybe, like Donna, your mother is in Heaven. Maybe you and your mother don’t have a good relationship and spending time with her would only upset you more. Even if your own mother is unavailable or a letdown, the Blessed Mother is there.
Do you have other suggestions? Leave them in the comments.